Problem: Am I really happy?

 Problem: Am I really happy?

Name: Daniel Carter
Occupation: Software Engineer
Location: New York, United States

I'm Daniel, 35 years old. I work as a software engineer at a technology company. My life seems perfect—good salary, comfortable living, a nice apartment in Manhattan, New York, and friends.

But I've been feeling a bit strange lately. It feels like my life is running on automatic—work, coming home, watching Netflix, occasionally hanging out with friends. On the outside, I look happy, but deep down, I know something's wrong.

I don't know why I feel this empty. Am I doing something wrong? Is this just the way life is? Or do I need to change something?

— Daniel Carter, New York

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Solution: Askly Help's sincere advice

Dear Daniel,

Reading your letter, it seems like you've come to a place that many people come to—when life seems perfect on the outside, but somewhere inside there's an emptiness. This is a very normal feeling, and it doesn't mean that there's something wrong with your life. Rather, it's a sign that something deep down inside you wants to change.

Are you really happy? Or are you missing something?

Happiness is not just about financial security or social recognition. It's a feeling that makes you excited about life. Maybe you've gotten so caught up in the daily routine of life that that true joy has been lost somewhere.

Some ways to experience life anew

1. Experience something new.
   The best way to break the monotony of life is to do something new. Do something that is outside of your routine.

   • Learn a new skill (music, cooking, or something different)
   • Go out alone somewhere you've never been before.
   • Get involved in some volunteer work that can bring meaning to your life.

2. Find your passion.
   You may be doing everything right, but is that what you really wanted to do?

   • What did you love to do as a child? Can you still do it?
   • Was there a hobby that you forgot about because of your busy schedule?
   • Does your work bring you joy, or is it just a livelihood?

3. Deepen your relationships.
   You may spend time with friends, but do they understand your state of mind? Having deep connections is very important.

   • Spend more time with family.
   • Find friends you can really talk to.
   • Don't keep your feelings a secret, share them with those close to you.

4. Give yourself time.
   If you get lost in work and technology every day, you will lose touch with yourself. Set aside some time for yourself—

   • Do meditation or yoga.
   • Spend time alone, sit with a book, or take a walk in nature.
   • Take a break from your mobile or internet.

5. Find your purpose in life.
   Most of us are so busy chasing work, money, and comfort that we forget why we are alive. If you feel like you are missing something in life, then you may not have found your true purpose yet. Ask yourself:

   • Do I live only for myself, or do I want to do something for others as well?
   • Is there anything that would make me feel like I'm truly alive?
   • If I only had 5 years to live, what would I do?

Last words

Daniel, it may take some time to find the answers to these questions, but if you move forward consciously, you will surely be able to bring the excitement of a new life to the place of the emptiness within you. Life is not just about living—it is also about experiencing life.

Love yourself a little, give yourself some time, and start something new. Happiness will surely return.

Best wishes,
— Askly Help