I am Mehran, a student of Chittagong University. My biggest problem is lack of confidence. Since childhood, I have had a kind of fear—what if I fail? What if I am not as good as others?
Problem:
Name: Mehran Ali
Occupation: University Student
Country: Bangladesh
City: Chittagong
I am Mehran, a student of Chittagong University. My biggest problem is lack of confidence. Since childhood, I have had a kind of fear—what if I fail? What if I am not as good as others?
Especially when I have to answer questions in class or give a presentation, my hands and feet start shaking. I feel like everyone is judging me, and I can't speak properly. Fear before exams, fear of talking to new people, fear of participating in a competition—everything seems to hold me back.
I know that confidence is essential to moving forward in life, but how do I build it? How do I overcome fear?
Solution:
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Mehran, your problem is very common, and believe me, you are not alone—many people face such problems. But the good news is, confidence is not something that is innate, it can be built.
1. Acknowledge your fear and find its source.
First, think about why this fear has come to you. Did someone make fun of you when you were a child? Or are you afraid that others will laugh at you if you make a mistake? When you find the root of the problem, it will be easier to deal with it.
2. Start with small wins.
Confidence doesn't build in a day. Take small challenges—
- Speak in front of friends.
- Stand in front of the mirror and talk to yourself.
- Try to talk to at least one new person every day.
These small habits will gradually reduce your fear.
3. Failure is normal—accept it.
Did you know that even the most successful people in the world have failed repeatedly? Failure is part of learning. If you make a mistake, there's no shame in it—in fact, it makes you better the next time.
4. Eliminate negative thoughts about yourself.
Sometimes our brains are our biggest enemy. We tell ourselves, "I can't," "I'm not good enough." But that's not true. Tell yourself every day—"I can." Look at confident people, how they talk, how they walk. Learn from them.
5. There is no substitute for preparation.
If you're afraid of a presentation, prepare well in advance. Practice in front of a mirror, record yourself and see how you feel. The more prepared you are, the less afraid you will be.
6. Remember your achievements.
We often forget how much we have achieved. Write down your small successes—a test you did well on, a task you completed successfully, or a fear you overcame. These will give you confidence.
7. Learn something new.
When you learn something new, your skills will improve and your confidence will grow. Learning a new language, playing a sport, or taking a public speaking workshop can all be beneficial to you.
8. Spend time with confident people
Who you spend the most time with also affects your mindset. Spend time with people who are positive, who inspire you.
Last words
Mehran, confidence is not built in a day, but if you move forward little by little every day, one day you will see that this fear can no longer hold you back.
You can do it—just take the first step. Good luck!