I am Min-ji Park, a student at a prestigious university in Seoul. My family's dream was for me to become a doctor, so I enrolled in medical school. But now I realize that it's not for me.
Name: Min-ji Park
Occupation: University Student
Country: South Korea
City: Seoul
I am Min-ji Park, a student at a prestigious university in Seoul. My family's dream was for me to become a doctor, so I enrolled in medical school. But now I realize that it's not for me.
All my friends seem to be in the right place, but I feel like I'm in the wrong world. Memorizing new things every day, shaking in class, and the fear of exams are killing me from the inside. I don't know if I really want to do this or if I'm just doing it to fulfill my family's dreams.
But what if I quit now? What will everyone say? What will I do? Can I really say after all these years—"I made the right decision?"
I am lost.
Solution:
Dear Min-ji,
You are not alone. Needless to say, because I know that right now, the only thing on your mind is, "Can I really get out of this?"
There is only one answer to this question: you can, but first you have to know what you want .
1. Family's dream vs. your dream
Your family loves you, wants to protect you, and wants to see your future bright. But ask yourself this question: If you don't want to be a doctor today, will you really be happy in ten years?
Your parents want a good future for you, but they can't be responsible for your happiness. That's your responsibility alone .
2. Eliminate the fear of "What will everyone say?"
"What will family say?"
"What will friends say?"
"What if I fail?"
The answer to these questions is simple: if you are unhappy, then none of this is worth it.
Your life is a story. But now it feels like someone has handed you a script, saying, "This is the character you play."
Don't you want to write this story yourself?
3. Do you really want to quit medicine? Or are you just tired?
This question is very important.
If you don't want to study medicine, then leave—it's an act of courage, not failure. But if you're just giving up because of the pressure, then think about it—how about taking a break?
Sometimes we get tired, but that doesn't mean our dreams have changed.
4. "What if I give up?"
If you leave medicine, do you have any alternative plans? Are there any interests you have?
Find a job that you love. If you don't know it now, no problem. Take your time, find it.
5. Forgive yourself, and move forward.
We often wonder, "What if I make the wrong decision?"
Even if you leave medical school and later realize it was a mistake, you will still learn something new. Life is not just a story of making the right decisions, but also a story of learning.
You are brave. You will make the right decision for you.
Best wishes,
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