Problem: I have immigrated to a new country, but I am having trouble adjusting due to loneliness and cultural differences.
Problem: I have immigrated to a new country, but I am having trouble adjusting due to loneliness and cultural differences.
The Challenge of Immigration: How to Overcome Loneliness and Adapt in a New Country?
Elisa Martinez, 29, graphic designer, from Madrid to Amsterdam
I'm Elisa, born and raised in Madrid, Spain. But I recently moved to Amsterdam, Netherlands, after a great job opportunity. I was pretty excited before I came here—new country, new culture, professional growth!
But the reality was different. Coming here, I realized what loneliness can really feel like. The language barrier, cultural differences, and lack of familiar friends are making me mentally exhausted. Although my colleagues in the office are friendly, I have very little contact with them outside of work. It is also difficult to socialize with the locals, as they mostly stay in their own territory.
The first few months of my stay here were spent just telling myself—"Take your time, be patient, everything will be fine." But even as time passes, nothing seems right. I'm losing myself, sometimes I feel like I've made the wrong decision. But going back professionally is not possible either. So how can I embrace this new life?
Askly Help's compassionate solution
Dear Elisa,
Your feelings are very natural. Immigrating to a new country not only means new opportunities, but it is also a difficult emotional transition. You are not alone—thousands of people around the world go through this experience. However, there are some effective ways to help you gradually adapt.
1. Be compassionate towards yourself.
It will take time to get used to the new environment, and that's perfectly normal. Don't tell yourself to rush. Tell yourself, "I'm not just a tourist, I'm here to build a new life." Take it step by step, give it time.
2. Try to understand the local culture
Try to understand the language, customs, and social norms of your new country. This will help you connect more. While knowing Dutch is not mandatory in the Netherlands, learning a few common phrases can help you get along with people. Take a language class, or join a language exchange group.
3. Increase connections with people
Making friends in a new country takes time, but it is possible. Here are some ways you can try:
- Create opportunities to talk to colleagues : Maybe invite them over for a cup of coffee after work.
- Join an expat or immigrant group : Look for groups like "Expats in Amsterdam" or "New in Town" on Facebook or Meetup.
- Participate in clubs and community activities : Yoga classes, art workshops, cooking classes—whatever your interests are, they will help you make new friends.
4. Create your own hobbies and routines
Don't just live for work, do something for yourself. Maybe take a walk in a nearby park every morning, or explore a new cafe on the weekend. Do something that connects you more to the city.
5. Maintain contact with family, but keep it balanced.
Your Spanish family and friends miss you, just as you miss them. But constantly comparing yourself to life in Spain can be a challenge to adjust to a new place. So strike a balance—talk regularly, but also make new friends.
6. Celebrate your successes.
You came here for your career. So celebrate your professional achievements. Remember, you came to this new country because you were brave. Don't belittle your achievements.
Last word: This change will make you new.
Elisa, you may be struggling now, but be patient—a new country, a new life will one day make you stronger and more confident. One day, you will realize that this experience has taught you to understand life more deeply.
Don't lose heart. Take small steps, understand people, and open yourself to new experiences. This city will love you as if you were its own.
Best wishes,
Askly Help