My life has completely stopped.
Sara, a student, Bangladesh
Problem:
"Brother, my life has come to a complete standstill. Studies, work—nothing is going well. My parents are always telling me to do something quickly, but I don't know how to start. Despite trying so hard, I can't get on the right track. I'm so frustrated. I don't know what to do, can you give me some advice?"
Askly Help
Dear Sarah,
I completely understand your feelings. There are times in our lives when it seems like nothing is going right. Sometimes, wherever we want to go, obstacles come our way and we feel like we are completely stuck. But I want you to know that this time comes not only to you, but to everyone. Almost everyone in the world faces such problems at some point in their lives, and we can learn a lot from these times.
Your frustration is completely normal, Sarah. When you feel like nothing is happening, stop and think—is all the hard work you've put in for nothing? Your inner strength is always pushing you forward, it's just that sometimes we lose our way for a while. Life doesn't always go in a straight line, but that's how we learn.
Now, I understand that your family's expectations are putting a lot of pressure on you. But remember, they love you and want something for you. Their fears come from their love, and if you can make them understand that you are trying and trying to figure something out, they will be more supportive. Family always wants to be there, you just need to be open and honest with them sometimes to get that support.
Also, if you break your tasks into smaller, targeted chunks, it can be much more effective. Doing things one at a time can reduce stress. If you can't get a lot done in a day, that's not a problem at all. It's completely normal.
If you take some time for yourself, take a break, and clear your thoughts, you will feel new energy within yourself. Take rest even while studying, try to keep your mind calm. Take care of yourself.
Finally, I will just say—it's okay if your life is a little slow at this time. There will come a time in life when you lose your way. When you get through that moment, you will find yourself much stronger. Have faith, and keep loving yourself.
Everything will be fine, Sarah. Give yourself a little more time and have faith. You can get what you want.
Best wishes,
Askly Help