Problem: Love has faded in a long-term relationship
Problem: Love has faded in a long-term relationship
Name: Laila Hasan
Occupation: Bank Officer
Country: Turkey
City: Istanbul
Laila and her husband Hassan have been married for eight years. Once their relationship was filled with deep love, but now it's not the same. Hassan is busy with work all day, while Laila is focused on her career. They both know they love each other, but the excitement, romance, and joy of spending time together seems to have disappeared somewhere. Laila wonders if this is normal? Or does something need to be done to save their relationship?
She wants to know how she and her husband can restore the old warmth in their relationship.
Solution: Find a new color of love
By Askly Help
Dear Laila,
Your feelings are completely normal. After a while, a long-term relationship can get a little boring, because life pulls us in so many directions—career, family, responsibilities. But that doesn't mean that love is over. Rather, it's time to spice up this relationship.
1. Remember the early days of the relationship
When you first fell in love with Hassan, what attracted you the most?
- Does he have any special personality?
- Some moments of time spent together?
- Small special habits?
Sometimes, just remembering the old days makes the feeling of love start to come back.
2. Give small surprises
Even in the midst of a busy life, small surprises can revitalize a relationship.
- Surprise Hassan by cooking his favorite food.
- Suddenly, he sent her a beautiful message, which she didn't expect.
- Bring her a small gift one day, without any occasion.
3. Have regular 'us time'
It's important to make time for each other, even in your busy lives.
- Go out together at least once a month—to dinner, a movie, or a walk.
- Sit together at night and talk for a while, without the phone or TV.
- Do something that is special just for the two of you.
4. Tell Hassan directly how you feel.
Sometimes we think our partner will understand what we're feeling. But the truth is, they often don't. So talk openly with Hassan—
- Tell him that you love him as much as you did before, but you want to make the relationship better.
- Ask, how does he feel?
- Ask for his or her opinion on how to have a better time together.
5. Do something new together
Start some new habits together to overcome boredom—
- Learning new cuisine together
- Going on a short weekend trip
- Going for a walk or exercising together
These will not only deepen your relationship, but also create new topics for discussion between you.
6. Understand your own love language
Every person expresses love in a different way. Some express love through words, some through touch, some through small actions. How does Hassan express love? And how do you want to understand love? If your love languages don't match each other, then you both need to adapt a little.
7. Take everything easy, don't be strict.
Relationships may change, but that doesn't mean the love is gone. If you feel that some changes are needed, do it with love and compassion, not harshly.
8. Take care of yourself and love yourself.
Sometimes we neglect ourselves in our attempts to fix relationships, but if you maintain your own happiness and confidence, it will have a positive impact on the relationship as well.
Laila, if you really want it, the warmth of this relationship can come back. A little care, a little time, and a little novelty—that's the key to rekindling love.
Best wishes to you,
Askly Help
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