"I feel alone and can't find true friendships in life. How can I build true connections?"
"I feel alone and can't find true friendships in life. How can I build true connections?"
Loneliness and the Search for True Friendship: A Story of Finding Your Way
Sender: Kishori Sen | Banker | Kolkata, India
Lack of friendship—a silent pain
Kishori Sen works as a banker in Kolkata. She is surrounded by many people, colleagues, clients—yet there is a sense of emptiness. At the end of the day, she feels alone when she returns home, with no one to share her thoughts with, no one to whom she can say, "I'm really not feeling well today."
This feeling is not unique to teenagers. Many people feel this loneliness in today's fast-paced life. It seems that it has become difficult to form deep friendships even in the midst of social media, the office, and the crowds of acquaintances.
But are we really alone? Or are we building our connections in the wrong way?
What to do to find true friendship?
1. Try to understand yourself.
Friendship is not just about building relationships with others, it is also important to have a good relationship with yourself. Many times we ourselves do not know what we really want, what we like, with whom we can have a true understanding.
✅ Suggestions:
- Being alone is not a bad thing. Spend time with yourself, understand your likes and dislikes.
- Identify your emotions, fears, and expectations.
2. Value existing relationships
We often think we need new friends, but many times we feel lonely because old relationships have not been properly nurtured.
✅ Suggestions:
- Increase contact with family members and old friends.
- Try to deepen relationships—have deep conversations.
3. Find people like you
It is easier to make friends with people who have the same mindset and interests.
✅ Suggestions:
- Do you like reading books? Join a book club.
- Like fitness? Go to the gym or join a yoga group.
- Join online communities or local events.
4. Be a good listener.
Friendship is not just a place to talk about yourself, but also a place to listen to the feelings of others.
✅ Suggestions:
- Listen carefully to others.
- Express empathy, not criticism.
- Do small acts of kindness—stand by someone, help them.
5. Take rejection as normal.
Not everyone can be our friend, that's normal. But let's not let that discourage us.
✅ Suggestions:
- Don't worry too much about those who aren't interested.
- Be open, but don't feel small.
Last words
Teen, you are not alone. There are many people in the world who are looking for a deep friendship like you. True friendship is not magic, but rather it is built through patience, understanding, and mutual respect.
What changes will you make from today? Share your feelings!