"I want to do my dream job, but I don't have the courage because of the financial pressure from my family. What should I do?"
Problem:
"I want to do my dream job, but I don't have the courage because of the financial pressure from my family. What should I do?"
Dreams vs. Reality: Can I leave my family responsibilities and follow my dreams?
Sender: Abir Hasan | Bank Officer | Dhaka, Bangladesh
Will I spend my life just fulfilling my responsibilities?
Abir Hasan works in a bank in Dhaka city. Since childhood, he wanted to become a photographer, to travel and capture different stories on camera. But due to his family's financial situation, he could not follow that path. Now he is a 29-year-old bank officer - working, managing the family's expenses, and fulfilling family responsibilities.
But every night he thinks, "Is this job really for me? Should I just take care of my family, or should I give my dreams a chance?"
The problem is, he is afraid to quit his job. What will happen to his family if he fails to follow his dream? Also, is it possible to be happy doing something you hate your whole life?
Abir is in this dilemma.
Family responsibilities vs. your own dreams—how to maintain balance?
1. Quitting your job doesn't mean you have to be brave, take it step by step.
Many people think they have to quit their jobs to pursue their dreams, but in reality, it can be risky.
✅ Suggestions:
- Instead of quitting your job, start photography as a side project.
- Do your hobbies on holidays or in your free time.
- When you see it is financially profitable, make a big decision.
2. Make a financial plan
Family responsibilities are important to you, so it is important to think about financial security.
✅ Suggestions:
- Build up some savings before starting your dream job.
- If possible, find ways to earn income through freelance work.
- Ensure you have at least 6 months of expenses before moving to a new career.
3. Convince the family, but step by step
Your family may not take your dream seriously at first, but if you present it to them step by step, their perspective may change.
✅ Suggestions:
- Instead of directly saying "I'm quitting my job," say, "I'm learning something new."
- Try to understand where their fears lie and reassure them accordingly.
- Show realistic plans for your dream potential income and future.
4. Prepare mentally
Change is not easy. There will be many obstacles when it comes to fulfilling your dreams.
✅ Suggestions:
- Don't be afraid, failure is part of life.
- Celebrate small successes—taking a good photo, getting a new client—these are the beginnings of success.
- Eliminate your inner doubts and become confident.
Last words
Abir, fulfilling your responsibilities is important, but you shouldn't completely lose sight of your dreams. If you move forward step by step, you will be able to advance your love life along with your family responsibilities.
Have you ever had to deal with such a dilemma? Share your experience!