Problem: I've wanted to follow my dreams for a long time, but the fear of insecurity and the pressures of real life keep me from making bold decisions.

Dreams vs. Reality: Am I Really Ready to Take the Risk?

Elena Martin, 32, banker, Madrid, Spain

I'm Elena, from Madrid, Spain. I've been working in a bank for the past ten years. The job is good, the salary is decent, but deep down I've always had a dream—to one day open my own little cafe, where people can come not just to drink coffee, but also to have a good time.

I've loved baking since I was a child. Whenever I make something for friends or colleagues, they rave about it. Many people say, "Why don't you open your own cafe?" But the reality is, I'm afraid to move forward.

What if I fail? What if I become financially insecure? What if this decision turns out to be the biggest mistake of my life? These are the questions that hold me back. Can I quit my job and follow my dreams? Am I really ready to take the risk?

Askly Help's compassionate solution

Dear Elena,

Your feelings are completely normal. It's common to feel scared before a big change in your life. Many people fall into this dilemma—the comfort of a secure life or the risk of an uncertain dream? But remember, life is not just about living, it's about loving.

If you truly value your dreams, they are never a momentary wish. They are a desire that comes from deep within your heart. So let's see, step by step, how you can overcome insecurity and move confidently towards your dreams.

1. Taking risks doesn't mean giving up everything.

Many people think that to pursue their dreams, they have to give up everything. But in reality, you can take steps in a safe way. Before quitting your job—

Plan your business.
Prepare financially, so that you have at least six months of expenses on hand.
Start small—maybe just run an online bakery first or try opening a pop-up cafe on the weekends.

This will validate the market for your business and increase confidence.

2. Make fear your friend, not an obstacle.

Fear will never go away, but we can control it. Starting something new will mean fear, but turn it into your strength. You can use it to become more organized, rather than being held back by fear.

Ask yourself every day, "What if I fail?"
Imagine the worst-case scenario, and you'll find that most of the time it's not as bad as it seems.

3. Celebrate small victories

The road to fulfilling your dreams is long. So, prioritize small successes. Maybe you sold your first cake today, maybe you received your first compliment from a customer—these are small steps toward big achievements.

4. Have alternative measures for security

Following your dreams doesn't mean you have to suddenly take financial risks. Save money for a business as well as a job. Also, learn the skills needed to build a new career.

5. Keep positive people around you.

Surround yourself with people who will encourage you. Listen to the stories of people who have been through the same thing, and try to learn from their experiences.

6. Remember—the biggest failure is not trying.

If you look back many years from now, what will you see? Will you thank yourself for making the brave decision? Or will you regret that you never tried?

Whatever success or failure comes, at least you will know that you fought for your dreams.

You can!

Elena, if you truly love your dream, then it is your right to strive for it. Take it step by step, make a plan, and you will see that by conquering fear, you become stronger.

Take a small step today—maybe advertising your first cake, or creating a budget for your business. One day, you will see that these small steps have brought you to the doorstep of your dreams.

7. Be patient and take failure as a learning opportunity.

Every successful entrepreneur has faced failure at some point. Failure doesn't mean you're done—it's a learning opportunity. If you have a problem on your first attempt, analyze it:

What has worked?
What didn't work?
How can you do better next time?

It's normal to make mistakes in business, but learning from them will make it easier to move forward.

8. Believe in yourself.

If you don't believe in your dreams, no one else will. Build confidence, take pride in your abilities, and remember—doing what you love is what will make you most successful.

Every morning, stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself:

"I can."
"I'm working towards my dream."
"I'm getting better every day."

This will build faith deep in your mind and make you more courageous.

9. Once in a lifetime, once in a lifetime!

Elena, life is too short, and if we live only for security, we might miss out on a lot. If you really want to open a cafe, then take it step by step. Nothing happens overnight, but if you take a little step every day, one day you will see that you have chosen the life of your dreams.

10. Take the first step today.

You can start working right now if you want! Set a small goal—

Maybe you'll write your business plan today.
Maybe do a trial run for friends next week.
Maybe you'll sell your first cake in a month.

One small step, one day, will bring a big change.

Last word: You are not alone, we are with you!

Elena, it takes courage to follow your dreams, but you are not alone. Every successful entrepreneur has been in your shoes once. If you take it step by step, one day you will sit in your own cafe, sipping a cup of coffee, and think—"I did it!"

Best wishes,
Askly Help

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Problem: I've wanted to follow my dreams for a long time, but the fear of insecurity and the pressures of real life keep me from making bold decisions.