Problem: Job vs. Peace of Mind—What Do I Do?
Problem: Job vs. Peace of Mind—What Do I Do?
Name: Lucas Anderson
Occupation: Corporate Executive
Country: United States
City: New York
I'm Lucas, a corporate executive in New York. I'm 35, and I've been in the corporate world for the past 10 years. From the outside, my life may seem perfect—high salary, luxurious lifestyle, social status. But the reality is different.
The pressure of my job is inhuman, I have to work 60-70 hours a week. There is no personal time, the stress has reached such a level that I can't sleep properly at night. Week after week is spent just chasing deadlines. I dreamed that this career would bring stability and happiness to my life, but now I feel like I am in a constant race, with no end in sight.
I want to quit my job, to do something that will bring me peace of mind. But fear is also at work—this job gives me security, a chance to be secure about my family and future. Can I give up the career I've built over the years? Or will I just have to endure it? Am I doing something wrong?
Solution: Jobs vs. Peace—Finding the Right Balance
By Askly Help
Dear Lucas,
It's clear from your writing that you're in a deep quandary. This is very natural—in our society, success is often measured solely by professional achievements, but how well our mental and physical well-being correlates with this is often overlooked.
An important aspect of your situation is that you are not only feeling job burnout, but also questioning the meaning of this lifestyle. This is an important realization, and it is important to find the right solution. Let's break down your problem into a few steps.
1. Analyze the nature and demands of your work
First ask yourself:
- What aspect of your job causes you the most stress?
- Are you just tired of being busy, or are you really not interested in work anymore?
- Are there any aspects of this profession that you still enjoy?
If you realize that you are no longer interested in the nature of the work, not the pressure, then maybe it's time to think about something new.
2. Prepare alternatives before leaving your job
We often make big decisions based on emotion, only to realize later that things weren't so easy. It's important to keep a few things in mind before quitting your job—
- Financial security: Do you have enough savings to last you at least 6-12 months without a job? If not, start preparing now.
- Other career options: Could you move into a profession that is less stressful but still financially secure?
- Freelance or part-time options: If you want to try something new, consider part-time or freelancing before quitting your job completely.
3. If you want to keep your job, then bring balance.
Sometimes, changing jobs can be a better solution than quitting.
- Create a work-life balance: Talk to your bosses about how to balance your time and work at work.
- Learn to say "no": You don't need to do everything, learn to avoid taking on too much responsibility.
- Set boundaries: Stop checking work emails after 10pm, give yourself at least one full day of rest a week.
4. Try something new for peace of mind
Life is not just about work, it's about enjoyment. Do something for yourself that makes you happy—
- Learn a new skill: photography, music, writing—anything that calms you down mentally.
- Mental wellness care: Meditation, yoga, or psychotherapy can be taken.
- Getting closer to nature: Spending some time in nature is a great way to reduce stress.
5. Give yourself time before making a final decision.
Never make a hasty decision. Take at least 3-6 months before deciding to leave your job. During this time—
- Observe your feelings.
- Plan alternative employment or lifestyle.
- Think about real problems.
Last word: Happiness is not just about a job
Dear Lucas,
Your life is not limited to office deadlines. Happiness is not just about job success, but also about enjoying every moment of life. If your job only brings you mental fatigue and unrest, then it is important to change it.
But it should not be sudden, emotional, but planned. Whether you quit your job or not, the most important thing is to take care of your mental and physical well-being.
Success is not about a big job or a high salary, it is about a life that makes you happy and fulfilled. I believe you will find the right path.
Good luck!
— Askly Help