🌧️ Problem: "I can't be a mother..."
🌧️ Problem: "I can't be a mother..."
Name: Elena Scott
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Occupation: High School Teacher
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Address: Bristol, United Kingdom
Elena's words:
I am Elena, 36 years old. For the past six years, my husband and I have been trying to have a child. Every time we have hoped, that hope has been shattered. We have done everything from treatments, tests, medications, but still I have not been able to become a mother.
Everyone around me is becoming a mother, taking pictures, having baby showers, and I'm just acting with a smile—I feel empty inside.
Sometimes I feel like I'm an incomplete person. It's like I can't do the simplest, most natural thing in this world. I feel like I'm tired. From the inside out.
✨ Askly Help's solution:
The motherhood that comes from the depths of the heart
Dear Elena,
As I read your words, I felt like you are going through a mountain of pain right now—alone. You may be smiling in front of everyone, going to work, being social, but your heart is crying continuously. This experience, this feeling of emptiness—not many people understand.
I will try to understand.
1. You are not 'incomplete', you are a 'complete' person.
You are a teacher. You shape the lives of countless children every day. In their eyes, you may be a mother. Motherhood is not just about giving birth, but also about being a refuge in someone's life.
Your love, your desire, your effort—all of this proves how deeply you know how to love. That is the great identity of a human being.
2. There is a 'maybe' hidden inside every 'no'.
It may be that life has left another path for you. Maybe adoption, maybe foster care, maybe something else. All paths are as valuable as having a child—because the goal is the same: to give love.
3. Try to find rest in your fatigue.
Don't blame yourself. Your body and mind are fighting every day. So your mind is tired—it's completely normal. You can take a break if you want. Give yourself love, respect your body. Because this body is what keeps you alive every day.
4. Sadness doesn't mean you're weak—sadness means you're human.
Your tears, your cries—everything is so real. And even in this real pain of yours, there is an extraordinary beauty, because you love, you love deeply.
Last words:
Dear Elena,
you are not alone. This journey is difficult, but you represent countless women on this journey who are suffering in silence.
Whenever you feel like, "I can't," tell yourself at that moment—"Still, I'm going. I'm trying. I'm loving."
And that's what makes you special.
You are not small because you are not a mother—you are huge because of your capacity for love.
With love and respect,
– Askly Help